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Black Collegian Career Center
How Sharp Are Your Soft Skills?
by Kathy Simmons
Studies have shown that IQ takes second position to emotional intelligence in
determining outstanding job performance and long- term success. Now, more than ever, you
need to pay attention to your "soft skills" to be hired, kept, and promoted.
In the words of John Hancock, "The greatest ability in business is to
get along with others and influence their actions."
Emotionally intelligent people have mastered the art of living in harmony with others.
They respond appropriately when conflict arises, and seem to know the right thing to do
regardless of the circumstances. Does this description fit you? Measure how sharp your
soft skills are by taking the following quiz:
A co-worker criticizes one of your ideas in front of the boss. Which best describes your
reaction?
- Immediately remind the critic of his most recent flawed idea.
- Say nothing. Youll ventilate with co-workers later.
- Become angry and demand to know why the critic is being so nonsupportive.
- Thank the critic for his input, and promise to take the feedback under consideration.
2. Your boss is acting different lately. She has been much less communicative and
friendly. You would be most likely to . . .
- Avoid her. Otherwise, you are likely to stay on her bad side.
- Schedule a meeting and ask for her feedback on your work performance.
- Assume she has personal problems and ask others if they are aware of details.
- Begin working on your resume. You would rather quit than be fired.
3. Youve just found out that you are the target of a nasty rumor at work. Which
of the following best describes your response?
- Do nothing. Rumors have a way of blowing over eventually.
- Make it a point to find the source of the rumor and confront him or her aggressively.
- Create a rumor about someone else to take the spotlight off yourself.
- Become depressed and distracted.
4. A less-talented co-worker is promoted to a position you hoped for. How would you
handle the disappointment?
- Start looking for another jobsomewhere else. Its obvious your talents are
not appreciated where you are.
- Resolve to make life difficult for the co-worker. Shell earn that promotion!
- Ask the hiring manager what areas you could focus on to be a stronger candidate in the
future.
- Pout, and hope someone notices your hurt feelings.
5. Your raise was much less than expected this year. How would you deal with the bad
news?
- Take a few extra sick days. Thats your way of evening the score.
- Ask your co-workers how much they got. Then decide if yours was fair.
- Go to your bosses boss and express your disappointment.
- Ask your boss what accomplishments would warrant a re-evaluation in six months.
6. You discover that you made a huge mistake that will cost the company plenty of
money. What is your solution?
- Immediately bring it to your bosss attention and ask for advice on minimizing the
damage.
- Resign as quickly as possible
- Try to cover up the error as smoothly as possibleand hope nobody looks too
carefully.
- Blame others for their contribution. You wont take the heat alone!
7. One of your co-workers regularly gossips about upper management. She seems to know
quite a bit of information and its hard not to listen! You would be most likely to:
- Listen eagerly, but never repeat what you hear.
- Tell her in no uncertain terms what you think of her lack of loyalty.
- Let your boss know she is gossiping.
- Tell her you would rather talk about other thingsthen change the subject quickly.
Correct answers:
1. d
2. b
3. a
4. c
5. d
6. a
7. d
7 correct: Your soft skills are razor sharp! You consistently display
maturity when it comes to coping with the inevitable conflicts and disappointments that
arise at work.
5-6 correct: Most of the time your soft skills are sharp, but there
are times you fall short of behaving professionally. Watch your tendencies to retaliate or
take things personally.
4 or less correct: You have significant deficiencies in your soft
skills. To realize maximum success, raise your awareness in areas of emotional
intelligence by reading any of the following books:
Emotional
Intelligence -- Daniel P. Goleman
Working With
Emotional Intelligence -- Daniel Goleman
Emotional
Intelligence at Work : The Untapped Edge for Success -- Hendrie, Ph.D.
Weisinger, et
al
People Skills
-- Robert Bolton
Be Your Own
Executive Coach : Master High-Impact Communications Skills for Dealing With Difficult
People, Improving Your Personal Image, Learning How -- Peter Delisser
Improving
Productivity Through People Skills : Dimensional Management Strategies -- Robert E.
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